Who is your best friend?...How long does you friendship last?...Mostly we find best friends while enjoying happy childhood or surviving through agonies of adolescence�as there are much more chances for having pastime and experiences together�Who is the best, the most skilful at friend's finding?
Children�First of all child loves and accepts he himself completely and unconditionally and he loves the entire world at the same way�Children don't make any social or economic distinctions, they CAN enjoy life as it is� It's easy to find a friend � every person on the Earth can be your friend�"Let's be friends" � that is all�very easy�
Youth � awkward age�it's a base for our future. Youth is inclined to find a friend with shared interests or activities then the friendships gradually develop into mutual trust, openness, affection and loyalty. We like people who share our attitudes and values. When someone agrees with us or makes the same chooses we have made, we gain confidence in our own views. Here we need find friends to build our confidence. Well�it's good when the friendships are built on healthy principles�
Getting adult we enter complicated world and both we ourselves and all the surroundings are getting more and more difficult to deal with, to understand, because of involving a lot of different circumstances. There is a tend for finding companionship of those of the same economic status and level of education. If we're going to get the best out of people and build relationships usefully we need to have good communication skills. Why it is so important both for finding a friend and building a firm foundation for prospective friendships in future?
What are you doing while meeting your friends?...Talking!!!...And it's not just exchange by information�much more�exchange by emotions, feelings�share of a part of your lives�How to find the best friend whom we can talk to for hours?�
Friendship is a long conversation. Indeed, the ability to generate good talk is the most promising indication, during the uncertain early stages, that a possible friendship will take hold.
The first important technique is to master the art of good talk. This requires just two simple tools. The first is a listening ear. Some people are especially skilled at opening others up. They readily elicit intimacy because they listen well. Good listeners genuinely convey interest in understanding the other person, they accept the person's feelings without interruption, and they empathize by trying to see the world from that person�s point of view. These are the skills of good listener: sincerity, acceptance, and empathy. People are really charmed being aware that simply offering the standard issue question "So, what do you do?" followed by comments and questions can show real interest in their personally.
Best friend finder is able sincerely wanted to enter your world and understand your feelings; first-rate listeners have a way of doing that.
The listening ear...that's what a person wait from a friend�as well the best friend finder has bright and sparkling eyes shining of interest and joy of meeting the friend. If we don't look at someone they immediately think that they can't trust us or we're not telling the truth, so eye contact is very important.
The second tool for creating friendly conversation is self-disclosure. Weighed and measured in appropriate amounts, self-disclosure is the primary ingredient for potential friendship. In fact, no decent friendship can be made without it. Here's how self-disclosure works. You spill something a bit private and chances are something intimate will get spilled back on you. However, beware: It's risky.
If I reveal a part of me, my excitement, my insecurity, whatever, I open myself up to potential rejection. You may not accept what I disclose. If you do nothing less than reciprocate my vulnerability, I feel slighted. But if you do share my secret, if you identify with me, we've struck the cord of friendship and are no longer alone.
Knowing when and how to talk about yourself is as important a skill as listening. No one really gets close to the kind of person who's so careful about his/her image he/she never reveals anything intimate. You've got to open up, but not too wide. In other words, if you reveal too much you'll overwhelm the other person. Everyone warms to the person who tells tales on him or herself.
Open up your heart, your mind, your soul before the person who you would love to have as your best friend, don't be afraid of difficulties of creating new relationships, don't get worried being wounded by unexpected words or actions. You'll be winner whatever the case � either you'll find true soul-mate, real friend, close person or you'll get invaluable experience�Not so easy?...Well�could you recollect a really worth easily-achievable thing on earth�???
Children�First of all child loves and accepts he himself completely and unconditionally and he loves the entire world at the same way�Children don't make any social or economic distinctions, they CAN enjoy life as it is� It's easy to find a friend � every person on the Earth can be your friend�"Let's be friends" � that is all�very easy�
Youth � awkward age�it's a base for our future. Youth is inclined to find a friend with shared interests or activities then the friendships gradually develop into mutual trust, openness, affection and loyalty. We like people who share our attitudes and values. When someone agrees with us or makes the same chooses we have made, we gain confidence in our own views. Here we need find friends to build our confidence. Well�it's good when the friendships are built on healthy principles�
Getting adult we enter complicated world and both we ourselves and all the surroundings are getting more and more difficult to deal with, to understand, because of involving a lot of different circumstances. There is a tend for finding companionship of those of the same economic status and level of education. If we're going to get the best out of people and build relationships usefully we need to have good communication skills. Why it is so important both for finding a friend and building a firm foundation for prospective friendships in future?
What are you doing while meeting your friends?...Talking!!!...And it's not just exchange by information�much more�exchange by emotions, feelings�share of a part of your lives�How to find the best friend whom we can talk to for hours?�
Friendship is a long conversation. Indeed, the ability to generate good talk is the most promising indication, during the uncertain early stages, that a possible friendship will take hold.
The first important technique is to master the art of good talk. This requires just two simple tools. The first is a listening ear. Some people are especially skilled at opening others up. They readily elicit intimacy because they listen well. Good listeners genuinely convey interest in understanding the other person, they accept the person's feelings without interruption, and they empathize by trying to see the world from that person�s point of view. These are the skills of good listener: sincerity, acceptance, and empathy. People are really charmed being aware that simply offering the standard issue question "So, what do you do?" followed by comments and questions can show real interest in their personally.
Best friend finder is able sincerely wanted to enter your world and understand your feelings; first-rate listeners have a way of doing that.
The listening ear...that's what a person wait from a friend�as well the best friend finder has bright and sparkling eyes shining of interest and joy of meeting the friend. If we don't look at someone they immediately think that they can't trust us or we're not telling the truth, so eye contact is very important.
The second tool for creating friendly conversation is self-disclosure. Weighed and measured in appropriate amounts, self-disclosure is the primary ingredient for potential friendship. In fact, no decent friendship can be made without it. Here's how self-disclosure works. You spill something a bit private and chances are something intimate will get spilled back on you. However, beware: It's risky.
If I reveal a part of me, my excitement, my insecurity, whatever, I open myself up to potential rejection. You may not accept what I disclose. If you do nothing less than reciprocate my vulnerability, I feel slighted. But if you do share my secret, if you identify with me, we've struck the cord of friendship and are no longer alone.
Knowing when and how to talk about yourself is as important a skill as listening. No one really gets close to the kind of person who's so careful about his/her image he/she never reveals anything intimate. You've got to open up, but not too wide. In other words, if you reveal too much you'll overwhelm the other person. Everyone warms to the person who tells tales on him or herself.
Open up your heart, your mind, your soul before the person who you would love to have as your best friend, don't be afraid of difficulties of creating new relationships, don't get worried being wounded by unexpected words or actions. You'll be winner whatever the case � either you'll find true soul-mate, real friend, close person or you'll get invaluable experience�Not so easy?...Well�could you recollect a really worth easily-achievable thing on earth�???
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